Returning to normal weirdness after seasons of extreme weirdness
This weekend, my local steampunk convention returns to the calendar. I have tickets. I have outfits that are almost done, and little piles of accessories, wigs, shoes, etc. all over my bedroom. I have last minute entry into the fashion show…
Spoiler: you can’t
I had two dates with Kevin, a cute, funny, interesting guy. We had beers outdoors both times, and a relaxed, “we’ll finish when we feel like it” vibe to both encounters. We had some interests overlap and also some wildly different interests it would be interesting to…
On a hot and steamy morning
Two months ago I wrote this, and some inner bugaboo said “do not publish yet…” and then I forgot about it. I won’t change the of-the-moment language, but the below events absolutely killed my drive to write.
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I wrote Theo a letter, and…
The American work ethic is killing our relationships
Our well-meaning elders and the mental-health-shortcut industrial complex have trammeled our relationships with this simple phrase: “Relationships take work.” Technically, this is not untrue — a dynamic between two individuals will never be 100% percent without disagreement, adjustment, or effort. The key…
The Unbearable Fight/Flightness of Being
I last wrote about Theo when we had just four one-on-one encounters under our belts. Our next was a dinner/chat/zombie movie night with two becoupled friends and him, in my house! A real party! I was an incredible spaz from the excitement of having them…
The Saga of Theo continues.
If you have never dated a demiromantic/demisexual, it can be a unique challenge to those of us who experience primary attraction (allosexuals/alloromantics). After the suggestion that Theo might be one or both demi orientations, I researched all I could about it. Theo confirmed that both…
Demogorgon or demisexual?
I have been doing relationships wrong my entire life; whether they were short or long, the ends never justified the means. I dated passive, avoidant, impotent/incompetent, and/or emotionally stunted men for over half my pubescent life. Unavailable Man (Homo inexpeditus) is hot as hell. …
A bold new project from the designer who brought you “Obsessed with a Breadcrumber For Four Years,” “I’ll Do For Now Until He Decides Otherwise,” and our last blockbuster seller, “Somehow I talked them into dating me but they don’t respect me enough to end it despite a total lack…
Remembering the chunk of days that encompasses all our private anniversaries
For some people, it was March 11, the date the WHO described the novel coronavirus known as Covid-19 as a pandemic. Also it is the date we learned that beloved actors Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson had caught the…
